Being the “most beautiful thing in the world”, sex is an integral part of a partnership. If it doesn’t function, we often feel discouraged and vulnerable. Sooner or later, other aspects of a relationship start to suffer because of sexual problems. The sex therapy, as daunting as it may sound at first, is an important step on the way to a healthy and enjoyable sex life in the partnership. Pursuing my career as a psychological consultant, I have collected a variety of experiences in the fields of couple’s relationship and sex therapy. My advanced training in couples therapy at the IBP of Zurich together with my participation in the workshop conducted by the American couples therapist David Schnarch on the subject of relationships make me a competent and experienced contact person when it comes to sexuality for women, men and couples – completely irrespective of their sexual orientation (poly-friendly/lesbian and gay affirmative). I am also undergoing a continuous training to become a sex therapist according to the Sexocorporel concept.
The beginning of the sex therapy
Visiting a website is not a substitute for a personal meeting with an expert in the field of sexuality. However, this text is a start. At the beginning – and also during the first visit of a sex therapy session – everyone is nervous. After all, it is a very sensitive issue, which you must be opened to first. My expertise in communication management helps me quickly build a trusting relationship with my clients where they feel comfortable and feel like they are being taken seriously.
What is sex therapy?
Sexual feelings are a mystery to many people. That’s why learning to effectively communicate your sexual thoughts is an essential part of sex therapy. Many think that sex therapy essentially consists of “homework”. However, for the majority of modern sex therapists, it is much more important to understand the way the sexual thoughts and the world of ideas of the individual work. My sex therapy begins with uncovering immediate causes of sexual problems: Behavior in the here and now that causes the everyday sex life of my clients to suffer – such as the lack of foreplay. Many sexual problems are based on ignorance. For example, many couples and/or individuals don’t know that a sexual response is part of the relaxation response. The sex therapy takes into account both the similarities and the differences between different genders and sexual orientations.
Body and mind have possibly the most intimate connection in sex life. The functioning sex knows no nuances or complexities. It’s simple and straightforward. If there are sexual problems or difficulties, most of us feel very badly. The sexual self usually lacks frustration tolerance. As a result, the sex therapy is very much different from the traditional psychotherapy. To work, it must be directly results-oriented. As a couple’s therapist, I give my clients certain tools that they can use immediately. Of course, treating sexual problems takes time but success serves as a source of inspiration for the future. Since problems related to the sexualis of individuals and/or couples tend to be complex, I consider it essential to devote sufficient time to listening, asking questions and providing feedback.